Yet another charming night on Bear411

[vianegativa]

This conversation occured after I was messaged by a fellow that told me his partner of 8 years left him for a third, after asking me if I'd chosen which bear I was going to keep first:

Me: Ok, look, I'm sorry that happened, but I'm not your partner. I realize that some people try thirds & what nots to mitigate problems in a relationship, but that's not my csse.

I'm sorry the experience was soured for you.

Daren: ummm, didn't say It was your case, you asked me a question, and I answered, sounds like the other 3 have a sour puss they have to put up with so good luck and hope your attitude don't ruin the sick party.

Me: Great, have a nice life, please don't bother saying hello again.

Remember: Stay bitter!

Daren: am not bitter, just a groos sick thing you are into. grow up.

Me: Which a lot of people would say about gay sex in general.

You were obviously burned if you consider a multi-person relationship a "gross, sick thing"


It's not a week unless I get some wounded soul gunning for me because I have something he doesn't, or because I'm in a situation he couldn't make work. If you ever wonder why I move from chat to chat or suddenly pop off Bear411, it's rude, belligerent fools like this that are the reason.

It's really hard to like folks sometimes.

Comments

[bookbear.livejournal.com]

I should really try this Bear411 thing. Neve rhave yet. Sounds...fun...in the masochistic sort of way.

[vianegativa.livejournal.com]

Yes.

"Does your ego need pruning? Are you too self-confident?

TRY BEAR411!"

[bookbear.livejournal.com]

I actually think I will for a laugh.

[cubziz.livejournal.com]

Sounds like the last time I was on gay.com.

Them: "Aren't you disgusted to be that overweight?"
Me: "Um, I'm not thrilled, but am working to lose it."
Them: "I'd kill myself before I got that heavy."

Gee... Thanks. Asshole.

[vianegativa.livejournal.com]

Shoulda told him if you were him you'd have killed yourself WAY before that for other reasons

sorry for the rant......

[retrocool.livejournal.com]

I hate idiots who are so into themselves because they have this image that they uphold to some kind of god. im sure 1)hes a big ol bottom and 2) all that working out to be fit (dont know how he looks like exactly, but..) doesnt make him happy still with his pathetic little cocaine snorting, meth head taking, dick sucking out of glory holes* bitch and probably being used as a tramp whore cunt rag bitch....

[jediknightcub.livejournal.com]

I would've told 'em: "I'd kill myself if I were as big an asshole as you are. Go now, take all the contents of your medicine cabinet."

[sonoranbear.livejournal.com]

That block button? It's a good, good thing.

[retrocool.livejournal.com]

you should post something of the nature if people have a problem on how you have your relationship, that they should just FUCK OFF and dont even bother with you to begin with, because you are not willing to have conversations with narrow minded fags who cant except the fact that everyone is different. that your time would be better off with you sticking your finger in your uretha than having an obviously an unintellectual conversation with the person who IM'd you.

or

that block thing apparently works too...

[dedos.livejournal.com]

Lately, if my friends, or, rather, if friends I want to talk to aren't online when I log into Bear411, I log off immediately. It's lost it's appeal to sit in that chat room for hours.... even though I don't seem to run into as many jerks as some people.

[booboobob.livejournal.com]

Frankly, I don't bother talking with folks that even remotely mention "monogamy". It saves me a lot of trouble.

[ours-garou.livejournal.com]

Recently, a mutual aquaintance approached me and made a snarky comment about your relationships. Of course, he seems to have forgotten (or never known) that I'm poly as well. Just because I'm with one other person now doesn't mean that we don't talk about a third in the future, when we feel the time and the individual is right.

Honestly, it's like there's a growing Fundamentalist Queer movement. All adherents are expected to pretend that they're exactly like Ozzie and Harriet, only with an extra dick and better cooking.

[vianegativa.livejournal.com]

I am also betting that the mutual acquaintance hasn't had a relationship of signifigance for more than a year...

Whereas I've been with one partner nearly six years and most "iterations" of my poly family have lasted longer than three years. Far longer, incidentally than all but one of the relationships of the people who have come gunning for me.

I am amazed at how quickly the single or newly-coupled neo-conformist gays are to roast anything that's not shown on Queer AS Folk.

Please don't tell me who it was being snarky. I'd be too tempted to rip them a new one.

Re: Fundamentalist Queers

[vianegativa.livejournal.com]

Essentially, they fail to comprehend one thing:

The poly subculture exists for our heterosexual friends too, on a much larger scale than our queer version of it. It is a constant companion to any legalized form of union and has been since the institution of marriage came along.

I'm not some kind of poly militant, but I do resent the concept put forth by some gays that if we just get in line with the example set by the straight world the reward-pellet of honest-to-goodness marriage will be dropped into our cage.

The gay rights movement is about acceptance for everyone, not just those gays most able to mimic Ray & Debra from Everybody Loves Raymond. That means we all get rights, drag queens, leather men, bears.

And yes. Even poly folk.

[jediknightcub.livejournal.com]

What an asshat.

I'm assured that with the gay marriage push, the eventual fallout will involve anyone who doesn't conform to the "1 man + 1 man" being systematically "shamed" for being outside the new norm.

While I feel that option should be there for people who wish to partake of it, I fear that it will just give the self-righteous queers that have been hiding in the RespectableCloset a new justification for being sanctimonious.

Meh.

[djmrswhite.livejournal.com]

how is it that i manage to step over all the bear411 landmines? every single person i know has had a bad experience with some dumbshit on bear411 and not me! i want to be verbally assaulted too!

[jiminwi36.livejournal.com]

What works well for some does not for others. What sone have others whats and can not have. So fuck the loosers that Think this it Gros and Sick If the world had its way every thing would be gross and sick

ROCK ON

[thegreenbear.livejournal.com]

Fortunatly, I have never had a single problem on 411, but I hear it from SO many folks. And yeah, there are a LOT of assholes and morons out there...