Moving Target

[vianegativa]

What do you perceive as my biggest failing as a person?

Comments

[vianegativa.livejournal.com]

It's great for a long-ass sentence, and very true.

[backrubbear.livejournal.com]

Trying to be too involved.

[vianegativa.livejournal.com]

Ok, you see, the input I get from other folks is that I'm not involved enough with them.

Do you mean I try to do too much?

[backrubbear.livejournal.com]

Such subtle questions are always awkward to answer in text. :-)

For the people that you are involved with, your involvement is often too shallow.

You try to involve yourself with too many people.

This leaves you spreading yourself too thin. You are too shallow for those you want to hold dear to you. You open yourself to shallow relationships with those who may not deserve them and yet also open yourself to hurt by those who can use that shallow relationship as a chink in your armor.

Hold dear to those who are precious to you. Repay their investment in you a hundred fold before looking to invest elsewhere.

[vianegativa.livejournal.com]

Overall, I've been VERY aware of this failing of late, and I'm trying to correct it. The problem is that I want to repair relationships that my chaos may have damaged. Again I'm left questioning whether or not I should because will I just be following the same path?

[backrubbear.livejournal.com]

1. Is your own house (your core relationships) in good order?
2. If so, what about close friends?
3. If so, what about acquaintances?

Much like me, you're a fixer. You see things that you know that can be fixed with a little time and a little effort.

You're out of "a little time" and "a little effort".

Go talk to your husbands. You need their help to prioritize. I think they'll be honest with you.

[analog-guy.livejournal.com]

Not sharing your stash.

[vianegativa.livejournal.com]

I ALWAYS share my stash.

I just e-mailed you as well, man of many journals!

[analog-guy.livejournal.com]

And I emailed you back, man of many husbands ; )

[lilotter.livejournal.com]

If I knew you better Matt, I would tell you, but in a constructive manner. I'd listen to backrubbear whom I think I'm starting to like.

-stash of what I wonder(trying not to sound too naive)

[glbear99.livejournal.com]

Hmmm.... You fail to keep in touch with old friends?

You are a very NOW person and deal with things directly in front of you, sometimes pushing things which are not right in front of you to a secondary status. Those secondary things start to build up and then some of them are moved to the "I mean to get to it when I find time" status. Sadly alot of things stay at that status for years.

When was the last time you called James or Amy?

[arshermetica.livejournal.com]

You inability to get me back my Final Fantasy video games!

[vianegativa.livejournal.com]

Dude, my skeeze of an ex scammed them. I'm sorry.

[arshermetica.livejournal.com]

I know I know, was just messin with ya toots!

[vianegativa.livejournal.com]

I'll buy you new copies

[arshermetica.livejournal.com]

ew, no! You're not the shit bag that has them. I was just givin you guff tiger.

[invisiblebear.livejournal.com]

Haste, sometimes.

[vianegativa.livejournal.com]

Most times I think.

[davomatic.livejournal.com]

I don't really know you so I can only state it from my own perspective which is definitely skewed to my perception. Your biggest failing as person, according to me is that you are not fucking me.

I just call 'em like I see 'em.

[vianegativa.livejournal.com]

That can be absolutely corrected.

[davomatic.livejournal.com]

I'd be honored to help you become a better person.

[traderbear.livejournal.com]

Clearly it's that you ask such masochistic questions in your live journal

[shdwpoet.livejournal.com]

Speaking from personal experience, there comes a point where we have to stop putting ourselves under a microscope and just accept who we are, flaws and all. Or, it could be that we seek input from people on our flaws in order to determine our own positive traits. I know I've been guilty of fishing for positive feed-back by asking for its opposite. No aspersions cast here at all. Just a way humans sometimes have of doing a sanity check and making sure they're loved (or at least regarded well) by humanity at large. It's the psychological equivalent of "Do these pants make me look fat?" The asker of that question is *not* looking for an insult. ;)