I can't believe it...

[vianegativa]

Yeah, there's nothing hotter than having a guy on BearCiti say those magic words:

"What my husband doesn't know won't hurt him."

What's worse is that the guy was someone I liked & thought well of.

*grrrr* Fuck.

Comments

[arshermetica.livejournal.com]

You know the classiest people.

[marinebear.livejournal.com]

Bwah? heh.. this sounded like a bubble falling upon a cactus.

[pensivegargoyle.livejournal.com]

Blech. I hope you don't know the husband as well.

[vianegativa.livejournal.com]

I ran into him once in IKEA. Sweet, cute in a geeky awkward way.

[pfriedma.livejournal.com]

would it be over-reacting to say that's one of the, like, core problems with the gay community? I swear, I can be pretty damn slutty... but sometimes you just should keep it in your pants. I mean what type of rationale is that? As far as I'm concerned, the moment you say that, you loose the right to call that person your husband, because clearly, they're not important to you.

[vianegativa.livejournal.com]

I pointed out that the only people I've ever heard that from are guys who regularly cheat on their hubby & that his husband deserves better.

[symbolic.livejournal.com]

It's true*





*in a Lovecraft story

[brevat.livejournal.com]

That's just wrong in so many ways. And yes, what his hubby doesn't know can hurt him.

[soul-spider.livejournal.com]

Are you sure they aren't one of them "don't ask, don't tell" couples?

[jayjaybear.livejournal.com]

As a poly guy with a mutually open relationship, I find that I get that kind of thing all the time. I WILL NOT play with someone who's not single or in an open relationship. I can't socialize with a couple if I'm sneaking around behind one of their backs. I've been roped in a couple of times by guys who tell me their partner knows, and then when it's time to meet the partner I'm told not to say anything about our playtime.

Pisses me off every time it happens...

[clintswan.livejournal.com]

ugh

[chuckstermn.livejournal.com]

That's Klassy... :-)

[jdawg1974.livejournal.com]

SERIOUSLY????
YOU'RE NOT GONNA CALL HIM?????
I know somebody you cold call, LOL.

Men suck! Don't let anybody tell you different!!!!!

[barankhy.livejournal.com]

*headdesks**repeatedly*

[strongaxe.livejournal.com]

I agree with jayjaybear. That dynamic is SO messed up. Anyone who gives me that line totally loses my respect (and the same goes for anyone who tries to lure me with "your husband doesn't have to know").

I'm in an open relationship, and we don't necessarily tell each other everything, but it's more like I don't make out a detailed report every time I buy a soda at a convenience store, but I don't hide it either. I can't fathom why anyone would want to be in a monogamous relationship, but still cheat on the side.

[hickbear.livejournal.com]

That guy sounds like my truck-drivin' ex, who was All About Monogamy - for me.

The twit never could understand why I was upset that he knew every cruisy tearoom, rest area and truck stop between Atlanta and Knoxville...

[chernocub.livejournal.com]

I have those problems with a guy that lives around here. It's not a don't ask don't tell relationship, the other half honestly thinks it's closed. Sure fire way for me to steer clear of someone. *sigh* Sorry it happened with someone you had good thoughts about previously!